I go to an all girls school, basically this ensures that gossip gets around the place like rapid fire. I know this from personal experience, when something happened to me on a Saturday night and by Monday morning the ENTIRE year level knew (our year level consists of about 200 girls).
Anyway, this is not what I wanted to talk about. I want to talk about something that happened to me resently. One of my friends in 16 years old and she came to me the other weekend and the conversation went something like this:
Friend: GUESS WHAT?!
Me: What?
Friend: well, you know that guy I was talking about?
Me: Yeah, did he ask you out?
Friend: well no, but he was at my house and we kissed and then we... um..
Me: um... what? what happened?
Friend: well, you know...
Me: I have a faint idea, but I want to hear you say it.
Friend: We... *after lots of stalling* we had sex...
Me: What?! are you dating now?
Friend: No, he's not ready...
Me: but you lost our virginity to him?
Friend: yeah, well, I'm pretty mature...
Me: yeah...
THIS is what I'm talking about. She had sex, she wasn't on the pill, she had known the guy for a month and she wasn't dating him, she wasn't in any kind of relationship with him and she thought that she was MATURE?!
No. That is ridiculously imature. That is so short sighted. And that is another problem with my generation. We think we are invincible. That we can drink and do drugs and have sex and there will be no consquences. That doing these things makes us more mature.
I think that maturity is more an ability to make thoughout decisions that you won't really regret the next day. I think maturity is knowing your limits. And I get that we are young, that we need time to experiement and find our groove. But whilst participating in these risky activites please don't pretend that you are mature doing them.
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